Love - No need to hurry

#Casablanca #BertieHiggins

In Vietnam we are reminded that ideal age to get married should not over thirty years old, especially for woman, means that you have to love someone before your age come to that point. Even if you will be considered as a bomb that explores anytime without informing in advance. Not only the old people but young people who are same your age or friends have same thought. I often receive the question "when will you get married?" and in reality I was in circle for a long time, from graduation college until I realized that. They did a good job. I absorbed all words related to finding someone and getting married.

Actually I have a simple thought, if I meet someone who I love, absolutely I will want to get married with, anyway I am not lesbianism or prefer living alone but it's not lucky for me. All guys who I had relationship with left me, some had gone away without waiting for my acception. Come a long with work, my mind always thought about this matter: how to get married before thirty years old. I had never made any plan to move and live another city or another country or to make progress in career cause finding a man spent all my time and my mind. One thing makes my choice is more difficulty than others that is I don't accept the things called "have to" in love.

"I don't fall in love with him but it's time I have to get married. If I don't do it at present, I will not have chance anymore. He will not wait for me" - My best friend said before she got married.

"Love anyone is the same. The first feeling may be love, then will be responsibilities to live together. Love feeling can't keep forever so getting married with anyone is the same, those requirements for him only has job, a normal family and kind charactor" - The reality people advised me.

" Love only exists on movie or in novel. There is not love that is completely feelings in the life. Be aware!" - These people understand me said

Or "Get married to born baby. The later you get married, the more difficulty you have pregnant"

There are many definitions of love and all is true. All has been experienced and proved by their life. But it does not mean they are standards about how to love and how should to marry. I met a forty woman who is a professor in a Korean reputation university still loves her single life. She went to thirty countries in the world and enjoyed her career. She told me about a guy in academy she liked and made her shy as if it was her first time she was in love with. It's crazy and could not imagine but she lived a life as she was just twenty. All things belong to her look so young exception her thought and her feeling that are really mature. I can't compare with her but it's clearly no matter how old we are, we have rights to choose to live in happiness or in desire of happiness.

Another couple also comes from Korean over forty years old, they have got married for four years, both of them stopped working and made a plan to travel around the world together, over a year they passed almost countries in Asia including areas are small and solitary in the high mountain. The husband is tall 1m8 while the wife is only 1m5 and it is a different thing they have. They have same thoughts and way to look at their journey, the matter of children and the future. They care each other in meal and talk joyfully like close friends, sometime the wife is angry cause knowing the husband smoked sneakily and we couldn't stop laughing when the husband curries favour with his wife. I can't think someone can give the foot in their relationship at the present. Their jouney is not only traveling but connection of soul and love.

You can say that you don't believe in love but I don't think so. I lived a life as if I'm fifty years old and I have not realized it until today. I didn't dare to pursue my road and was affected by all people around me. There were a lot of things I missed in my life and they made me regret about my wasted youth.

Family and friends who are close to you but maybe they don't understand and know what you want and who you wanna become. Only you know yourself. We shouldn't have any limitation about happiness or love. Maybe it hasn't happened or maybe it's coming. Maybe we are lonely, maybe not. Who knows how we enjoy the life in our own way.

Believe in yourself. Dream big. Dare to do it!